*high five* i posted this above...

The best sex is when it includes a whole bunch of oral and fucking for both parties! :)

well said

I like to finish with oral I like giving my girl a long hard fuck, then finishing hard in her mouth. I like all my cum swallowed.

Word. And yes I love eating pussy... ...and fucking it. I just always want (need?) to cum from head. And I can put my dick in my mouth- its not neccessarily about size, but also back flexibility.. and no, I dont think I could get off that way, and Id rather not taste my own nut. Although I love it when the lady does..

well, maybe you should work on it just sayin, if i was in a LTR with you, i'd get pretty tired of having to stop fuckin and suck your cock EVERY TIME. kinda monotonous...

*snicker* That's very true. I'd be like, "Uhm...just jack off on my tits this time, kay honeybunches?" :D Lulz!

not trying to be mean, but you get what i'm saying. when i "have" to do something, it's invariably going to become a chore.

I dont always have to cum.. ..and I can cum from fucking, it just never seems as intense as head. And absolutely, I enjoy it if the girl is enjoying it... but if shes not into it, then I dont want it. Maybe Im making myself sound far more fucked up than I actually am.

i was responding to this post, sorry if i misunderstood... "I just always want (need?) to cum from head"

Yes, indeed. It's good to be able to get off in a variety of ways. It'll keep sex from becoming chore-like. Ugh, what a horrible thought--for sex to become like a chore. I say, he can retrain himself to cum in other ways. It just takes time and practice. :D

I think my ex spoiled me.. And aside from loving to suck cock and being so good that it almost ruined other girls bjs for me, she really was pretty simple. x years and she didnt really wanna experiment, use toys, handjobs, assplay, etc.. I wouldnt mind experimenting with tantric stuff, but Im from San Francisco, and so far Miami women havent seemed that open minded or fun to me.

You might not be the one You have to be compatible. I like submissive girls, and a lot of submissive girls are happy to do what is required of them.

i didn't think this was a D/s situation.

Doesn't have to be a seesion It's just what I like, so of course I need a girl who likes it too. My girl needs to be prepared to serve me x/x. It's simple. If she is into it works for both of us.

Good lord, Im getting off now so I can jerk off. lol.. any ladies in the Miami area, drop me a line. Lets discuss this more in person sometime!

Is that really sex? I don't think so. Question answered.

a question for A/all. consider this question under the ultimate goal, and desire, of both people eventually being together in a D/s relationship. A Dom wishes to own a girl, and the girl wishes for the Dom to own her. He is perfectly understanding, reassuring, and patient about whatever she is willing to give to him, but she is still very cautious and has a lot of doubts about the situation (mostly to do with past issues, not current), and has a very hard time keeping the slate clean in this new relationship. Being that she is submissive and is much more comfortable following rather than leading, in your opinion, do you think she should let him take the reins or continue hanging onto them for who knows how long, to wait and see if she has less doubts. And would you consider her unwillingness to give up control right now (because she wants more proof, if that even exists) topping from the bottom? Note: this couple is not exclusive... yet.

I would say She is waiting for more proof from him, but refuses to let herself be in a position that he can.

so what do you suggest? any ideas?

I suggest nothing but Introspection. Sorry that is not the help you are looking for, so answer these questions. Why the reluctance? Is it currently pertenent? Is the past damage to deep to ever recover from?

what is the main issue blocking her trust?? is it emotional? physical fear?