How may of you have given pity fuks? and did you climax/cum with them? was it overall enjoyable, or more of a project thing? I think I may have been a pity fuck once in a while, but I never gave one.

I think i have pity fucked just about all the men i have been in relationships with. See i don't give up easy, so usually the relationship is well on it's way out the door before it actually ends, there's usually a period of time where you know it's over but hang on anyway... pity fucks happen then. No i have never orgasmed during a pity fuck.

It's kinda sad... is it not?

yes it's totally sad... i hope to not find myself there again. I have gotten better at communicating my needs and feelings and hope that in the future i can end relationship on my terms and not hang about because i feel guilty and sorry for the man.

I think that is my lesson for the day pixie. It isn't an easy one at all. I'm trying to look at it like.. he's great in a lot of ways.. just not for me. and... He found me, he can find someone else when he's ready. *sighs* Guilt is a nasty little bugger. *hugs*

ya *hugs* to you luv... we do get better at these things things as we get older (i hope). I think it takes work but we can do it if we set our mind to it. i agree, he will find someone else when he is ready. he might need things to be completely over between you before his desire for others start to creep up and motivate him to get out there and meet women.

hell I gave him a list of suggestions. :) But also mentioned that he should continue with the therapy thing, for himself.

aw sweetie you're not a buttinsky at all! and thank you, really. All will be fine and one day I will look back and say, wow... this isn't what I planned for myself, but it turned out fine anyway. I'm actually feeling better than I should be. The trick is to not think about it or him. (at least not until after finals and my presentation in May).

I am sure there will be up times and low times and times you would rather not feel at all. It is good that you have such a positive outlook and are in touch enough with yourself to know what you can and cannot handle right now! Again, I wish the best for you :)

If that the description of a pitty fick . . then my wife does it approximately once a month

I ditto this! I have a hard time exiting without a hardcore reason. I feel like maybe I haven't given it enough even though I know its over. God, I hate that in between...you are mentally out but physiy there....SUCKS!

do the ones I gave when I was married count? or received while married? I didn't think of them as pity fucks at the time,being I was getting something out of it too. But, looking back, I might have given in sometimes when I really just felt sorry for him.

what is that handle of in too cute

my vacuum cleaner I am properly motivated to have a clean house

my wife likes hand tools rake handles, hammers, drills, and most veggies

I have a fondness for ice cream scoops recently

oh no during the day LOL while doing kitchen chores and do you mean inserted? kitty+sugar= bad sugar can trigger nasty yeast infections

she likes the cold nummy then I can do her some more....do you like anal plugs?

i most certainly do and often am ordered to wear mine while shopping it reminds me of him sighs

I got her one And she put it in while we were at the store...I like the pop it makes when I pull it out

giggles yup!

She likes when I replace it Does he allow you to show off your toys?

in you or out?

my wife likes this

That reminds me of what I used to say to my soon-to-be ex. Whining is NOT foreplay.

giggles....I will have to pass thaton to a friend. she will giggle Hopes the sexy lady is shiny and bright

It's funny now, after the fact. But ohhhhh so irritating whenis living with it, no? Him: Waaaah, but we haven't done it in soooo long. Her: *panties stay dry as the Sahara* It sucketh, I tell ya! But I'm shiny and bright now, thank you tc. And all is well with your and your sexy man, yes?

sighs everything is fine although the trip was scrubbed and is undated right now that is incredibly hard, but he makes it easy for me somehow i am happy you're so much happier and yes looking back makes me wonder how I lived with a HMW for so long LOL I wonder if they save marriages snickers