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whitelock

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2011-02-08 19-38-35

need some insight please send your ideas of why the lesbian community is so descriminating toward trans guys who had been living as lesbians. i find it strange that a monority group can be so mean toward another minority group.
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2011-02-11 13-40-01

expecting acceptance from any group as a whole is problematic. Within any group (be it heart surgeons, supermarket checkers, or the lesbian community) there are good eggs and bad. I'm sorry you have been hurt and discriminated against by various lesbians. Obviously those people have issues you cannot solve. However, there are no doubt some safe, accepting lesbians out there who will be open to you. The task is to find them. Also, you should look into finding a trans support group of some sort.
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  • steedman

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    2011-02-12 10-17-30

    i can only speak from my experience and in that (limited) experience i dated a transguy who overemphasized my role of being the female to his male in our relationship. i did not like this because i felt it denied me a whole aspect of my personality - the part that doesn't fit into your overly typical "girly" box. obviously, these actions are not endemic to transguys as a whole, but i will say that transguys are more likely than lesbians to behave this way because they have sought to define their masculinity separate from the culturally imposed femininity. so while i'm not opposed to dating a transguy in the future i will definitely approach it with a lot of caution. i never want to subordinate who i am to who someone else wants me to be. as i result i may not be as open and inviting to new transguys that i meet in comparison to lesbians.
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    2011-02-15 2-07-39-

    discriminating as in "won't date FTMs"? In that case, as a lesbian, I discriminate and will continue to do so. I do, however, include FTMs in my concept of the queer community, and when I participate in community actions/social life, I am pleased to see FTMs in the mix. Not that I bother with "women's space" anymore, but if I did, I would not include FTMs in such plans because FTMs are not women. Don't you agree?
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  • neeson

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    2011-03-01 11-59-40

    I agree for the most part, but I'm undecided about how I feel about trans guys coming to lesbian events. I don't know if it's PC to say it, but I think of trans guys as queer.....I think they'd likely get the shit kicked out of them (or worse) at straight bars, and in the end, they're more likely to find what they want at a lesbian bar--ie a woman interested in dating a person who looks male, but has female equipment. So for those reason, I don't have a problem with FTM as lesbian events. But I do have other reservations...
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    2011-04-03 19-24-46

    a little more details agreed, events designated as 'all women' i don't belong in. i don't identify as woman. more to my surprise was a recent conversation regarding my current appearance which suggests i am a butch lesbian. lesbians see me and assume i am among their anti-male counterparts. then they hear i am FTM, and am actually BI, and are suddenly turned off. like i have misrepresented myself to their community.
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    2011-04-09 2-45-58-

    are you saying that when you used to live as a lesbian you didn't have a butch appearance, but now you do?
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    Cecelia

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    2011-05-15 8-40-54-

    not about dating as i come out as FTM, it's the straight folks who are more supportive of me, even if i still identify as queer. the lesbain community is more interested in keeping people in tight, defined boxes with little room for individuality. all queer folks are minorities, and should understand wanting a safe place to party, to be yourself, without the hatred for differences.
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    2011-08-26 23-06-20

    true about the lesbian community liking to be able to easily and cleanly categorize people. Those of us within it who are not strictly butch or strictly femme find that too. If you/we can't be instantly and clearly labeled, it makes some people uncomfortable. Go figure. Just ignore it and go on about your business.
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    2011-09-06 16-42-43

    I did not use the word oppression I simply noted that some people are uncomfortable if an individual does not fit clearly into butch or femme. I will not force you to date me. You are off the hook, whoever you are. And who is kiki?
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    2011-12-25 20-18-28

    Most women I know would embrace your queerness Can I tell you a story from the other side? My best hood friend transitioned from male to female when he was x. We were roommates off and on for years before, during, and after his transition. Strangely, he became less tolerant of my sexual identity the more male he became. By the time he could pass among the general public, he was telling me that homosexuality was abnormal, that only men should be with women. He got lots of support from his family and from most of his straight friends. They seemed to think that the sex change operation was a CURE for his previous (perceived) lesbianism. He got the surgery so that he could be "normal;" all his old lesbian friends were still "abnormal." I don't think that straight people are less interested in keeping people in "tight, defined boxes" than lesbians are. Many straight people have an easier time believing that a woman who wants to be with women really wants to BE A MAN. It fits with their heteronormic outlook. It's the same reason stupid straight people always ask lesbian couples, "So, which of you is the man?"
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    2012-02-14 7-41-28-

    k,a guy dresses as a woman, likes men and women and cannot tell why, maybe, you are discriminated against? Discriminated or just not liked? It does sound a bit wishy washy, you are not a lesbian, I am unsure of what you are except maybe getting best of all worlds,and complaining. Are you sure you know what you want? Jerry! Jerry! Jerry!
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    2012-05-10 16-08-22

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    2012-07-22 3-13-07-

    More... Not all lesbians are so quick to "put people in boxes." Most of my friends are well versed in how fluid gender and identity can be. I myself am a full on lesbian, more butch than femme, and am attracted to women, and I don't date guys - but I heart my transguy friends, and the lesbians and FTMs in my neighborhood and circle of friends all pretty much hang out and dig each other. I know it's a bit trickier when it gets to issues of "women's space," since trans guys are, techniy, guys - but I'd tend to take that on a case by case basis. Maybe it's a Denver thang?
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    2012-10-07 12-06-39

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    2012-12-24 18-15-05

    Some are, some aren't. Don't generalize.
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    2013-01-29 22-59-45

    my own experience with the trans issue I dated a pre-op transwoman (x years on hormones) who identified as lesbian for a couple months. I still get shit for it, from lesbians at large and from my straight male friends. Both groups began to doubt my lesbianism and as a result: my straight male friends are convienced I'm "in denial" of my love of cock (in other words they're pissed that I'd have sex with, as they put it, "a guy with tits" and not them) and lesbians are more reticent with me. These rediculous assumptions arn't what caused the relationship to end nor would they have prevented it from existing in the first place, but I can see how many would refrain from the situation just to avoid the social consequences. As for the lesbian community being discriminatory towards transmen, yeah, I don't get it either. Though, I think the gender-queer movement is helping to make things more inclusive as a whole.
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